The littlest cat is in a crate as punishment for a non-provoked attack on the oldest dog.
The six year old boy is taking a nap as punishment for lying to me about jumping on the couch (yes, I SAW you in the reflection of the computer monitor).
The one year old boy is taking a nap because I can't stand his screaming anymore.
I wonder how many times a day I say "no."
I'm kind of disappointed about the nap for lying because I was hoping Sam and I could finally decorate our gingerbread house (and yeah...the lying part sucks too).
I'm out of coffee creamer and have zero interesting prospects for lunch.
It's 1pm, I have cramps, and I am still in need of a shower.
How's this for poetic justice? The one year old screamed at the six year old until they both fell asleep. ha!
The husband's car cost us "about $900" to replace the clutch (on the plus side, there is very little on that car that has not now been replaced).
Last night, the husband said to me, "So, have you made any big plans for us for New Year's Eve?" I responded with, "You know, it wouldn't kill YOU to take care of things for once and say...Hey Cath, I have a wonderful evening planned for us..." When he looked stunned, I said, "I know, I know...and I haven't even been drinking!"
I still have to get to the grocery store to buy supplies for tonight's traditional New Year's fondue dinner.
Happy New Year!
My New Year's resolutions
~not pay full retail price for anything...sales and coupons only (with the exception of milk...cause baby has to have it and it's not an item I can stockpile).
~eat better. Fast food/eating out will be limited to once a week.
~exercise (of course).
~donate $1 per day to the UNICEF I Believe in Zero campaign. No child should ever die from a preventable cause.
~stay up to date with the MOM Project bracelets.
~try to blog about an interesting charitable cause each week on this blog.
~crochet more...and I will finish and deliver the afghan for a friend I've been working on for two years.
~do better at staying in touch with friends and family. Even if it's just an email to say hi. I will also invite people over to the house. Maybe dinner. Or weekend get-togethers.
~scrapbook a page a week.
~read every night before bed.
~take pictures of the boys at least once a week.
~worry less.
~express more patience with everyone and not say so many unkind things to my husband.
I think it's all do-able. But first I have to start with that shower...and some advil. Did I tell you I have cramps? and a headache? and I fell down the stairs on Christmas Eve and am bruised and sore in odd places?
May you have wonderful New Year's celebrations!
See ya in 2009!
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
2008 Blog review
The first line from the first post of each month this year...
January : (Started with this meme, so I'm going with the first real post.)
Awake and wishing I were sleeping from 1:30 to 4am.
February : Apparently I'm still a beginner at this stuff.
March : I was reading over at sweet|salty and love this comment..."What does it matter, this grand scheme of things?"
April : Sam: Mommy, is today April first?
May : I'm tired.
June : (Started with Secret Pal questionaires, so I'm going with the first real post)
The lawnmower is broken and the lawn is a veritable jungle complete with its own wildlife population.
July : Congratulations to Brenda and Scott!!!
August : The infant carrier was replaced today by a convertible carseat.
September : Let's get something straight.
October : Today's mail has buoyed my spirits regarding our house/landfill situation.
November : Dropped the phone in the toilet...the baby's phone.
December : I just got "that" look from Myles...the one I've seen a million times on Sam's face...the one that says, "Who me?!?! I'm not doing anything bad...I promise."
Not a bad year. In fact, I think I would venture to say it was a GOOD year. Uh-oh...I'm going to get all misty-eyed and nostalgiac here.
January : (Started with this meme, so I'm going with the first real post.)
Awake and wishing I were sleeping from 1:30 to 4am.
February : Apparently I'm still a beginner at this stuff.
March : I was reading over at sweet|salty and love this comment..."What does it matter, this grand scheme of things?"
April : Sam: Mommy, is today April first?
May : I'm tired.
June : (Started with Secret Pal questionaires, so I'm going with the first real post)
The lawnmower is broken and the lawn is a veritable jungle complete with its own wildlife population.
July : Congratulations to Brenda and Scott!!!
August : The infant carrier was replaced today by a convertible carseat.
September : Let's get something straight.
October : Today's mail has buoyed my spirits regarding our house/landfill situation.
November : Dropped the phone in the toilet...the baby's phone.
December : I just got "that" look from Myles...the one I've seen a million times on Sam's face...the one that says, "Who me?!?! I'm not doing anything bad...I promise."
Not a bad year. In fact, I think I would venture to say it was a GOOD year. Uh-oh...I'm going to get all misty-eyed and nostalgiac here.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
The longest night
So our shameful little secret is that until two nights ago, Sam still slept in our bed. We tried so hard to transition him before and just didn't have the energy or the inclination. To be honest, each of the two times I returned home from the hospital with empty arms, I needed to have his snuggly warmth up against me...to remind me...of everything... And really, he needed us to reassure him that we weren't going anywhere...that life wasn't all scary and unpredictable...and at the end of every day there would be his mommy and daddy to snuggle up and fall asleep with.
Every night at 9pm we would have our "snuggle time" during which we would watch one half hour cartoon and just relax together. But now time has moved us all forward and the boy's cute little starfish sleeping position now comes with sharp elbows and lightning fast movement that no longer make the family bed comfortable for any of us. His interest in watching an innocent half hour cartoon is pretty small. And though he still "wants" to sleep between mom and dad...he doesn't need to (and I question whether he even wants to).
It was time and he agreed to sleep in another bed in another bedroom if his brother would make the move with him.
And so the crib moved too.
And I am so so sad.
I am so not ready.
The little boy who saved me from the darkness and the baby who helped me find light again...both need me a little less tonight. No middle of the night kisses as I stumble my way to/from the bathroom. No warm little boy breath across my cheek as he rests his head on part of my pillow. The bedroom we put together when my belly was swollen and our hearts bursting with anticipation...half empty now with two fewer little people to snuggle.
I know it could be worse (believe me, I know). And I am beyond happy to know that two of my children sleep soundly in the warmth and comfort of the next room. But this letting go is hard too.
I know Steve will find this all funny since we have dogs and cats galore who are more than willing to snuggle on the bed. And yes, I know the husband and wife thing is supposed to be so fulfilling that the children get in the way and I should be relieved (it WAS nice to be able to watch TV after they had fallen asleep in their own room). But my heart aches with this change.
I know this won't be the longest night I live through as the mom of these two boys.
But right now I'm wishing for the sunrise so I can kiss their little faces.
Every night at 9pm we would have our "snuggle time" during which we would watch one half hour cartoon and just relax together. But now time has moved us all forward and the boy's cute little starfish sleeping position now comes with sharp elbows and lightning fast movement that no longer make the family bed comfortable for any of us. His interest in watching an innocent half hour cartoon is pretty small. And though he still "wants" to sleep between mom and dad...he doesn't need to (and I question whether he even wants to).
It was time and he agreed to sleep in another bed in another bedroom if his brother would make the move with him.
And so the crib moved too.
And I am so so sad.
I am so not ready.
The little boy who saved me from the darkness and the baby who helped me find light again...both need me a little less tonight. No middle of the night kisses as I stumble my way to/from the bathroom. No warm little boy breath across my cheek as he rests his head on part of my pillow. The bedroom we put together when my belly was swollen and our hearts bursting with anticipation...half empty now with two fewer little people to snuggle.
I know it could be worse (believe me, I know). And I am beyond happy to know that two of my children sleep soundly in the warmth and comfort of the next room. But this letting go is hard too.
I know Steve will find this all funny since we have dogs and cats galore who are more than willing to snuggle on the bed. And yes, I know the husband and wife thing is supposed to be so fulfilling that the children get in the way and I should be relieved (it WAS nice to be able to watch TV after they had fallen asleep in their own room). But my heart aches with this change.
I know this won't be the longest night I live through as the mom of these two boys.
But right now I'm wishing for the sunrise so I can kiss their little faces.
Menu for Hope V deadline extended
You now have until December 31st to get your raffle tickets for Menu for Hope.
There is some great stuff there! I'm listing a few of my favorites available here (United States)...but you should go check out the complete list for all sorts of exquisite prizes from all over the world. You will want at least one ticket, I promise you.
UW05: Cuisinart ICE-50 Ice Cream Maker
UW09:Blogher '09 conference pass
UW10: Set of Lowel EGO Photo Lights
UW24: Scharffen Berger Chocolate Gift Package
UE01: New West Knifeworks Knife of Your Choice
UE04: 2 boxes of Parisan style macarons from Petites Bouches
UE05 Small Box of LA Burdick Chocolate Mice
UE14: Two tickets to the largest food & wine pairing in Rhode Island – Food For Thought on The Coastal Wine Trail
UE15: Bo Ssam dinner package for 8 at Momofuku Ssäm Bar
UE21: Le Creuset 5 1/2-quart Dutch Oven
UE28: Eight Gourmet Family Dinners
UE29: Paella Kit
UE30: Two bottles of Pineau des Charentes
WB01: A Wine Vacation at Meadowood Resort in the Napa Valley
WB24: Kendall-Jackson Owl Box Adoption Gift
There is some great stuff there! I'm listing a few of my favorites available here (United States)...but you should go check out the complete list for all sorts of exquisite prizes from all over the world. You will want at least one ticket, I promise you.
UW05: Cuisinart ICE-50 Ice Cream Maker
UW09:Blogher '09 conference pass
UW10: Set of Lowel EGO Photo Lights
UW24: Scharffen Berger Chocolate Gift Package
UE01: New West Knifeworks Knife of Your Choice
UE04: 2 boxes of Parisan style macarons from Petites Bouches
UE05 Small Box of LA Burdick Chocolate Mice
UE14: Two tickets to the largest food & wine pairing in Rhode Island – Food For Thought on The Coastal Wine Trail
UE15: Bo Ssam dinner package for 8 at Momofuku Ssäm Bar
UE21: Le Creuset 5 1/2-quart Dutch Oven
UE28: Eight Gourmet Family Dinners
UE29: Paella Kit
UE30: Two bottles of Pineau des Charentes
WB01: A Wine Vacation at Meadowood Resort in the Napa Valley
WB24: Kendall-Jackson Owl Box Adoption Gift
Friday, December 26, 2008
Christmas miscellaneous thoughts
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Still waiting for part of my Christmas gift to my downstream secret pal to arrive. I blew it. I hope she understands.
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Christmas socks.
Wood stairs.
Moving too fast.
Fall down stairs.
Go boom.
GIANT bruise on my rear (and oddly numb spot...which worries me).
Thanking lucky stars I wasn't carrying the baby.
See...I CAN look at the bright side even if I look ridiculous "sitting crooked" (as Sam has deemed the one-cheek sitting pose).
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Sam was completely and totally spoiled. And Myles...I was certain we already had all the baby toys there were to have (from spoiling Sam)...But it seems there are still more out there.
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I really enjoyed the giving of gifts this year. I gave Steve and Sam a "six pack" of Indians tickets. And the toys...so many toys...so much fun.
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Facebook Yoville to PC Sims...it's a slippery slope. And it is very odd that despite my sister's assurances that "they can't do that," Angela (the girlfriend) stole baby Beau...just picked him up and carried him off without looking back. Very strange.
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I ate way too much food and may not need to eat again for a couple of weeks.
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My brother's fiancee has a little boy who is six years old. He is absolutely darling and he and Sam became fast friends. Sam, who was already adorably excited about having a cousin to play with, is beside himself.
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I miss my grandparents this time of year because we used to spend every Christmas with them. I tried to find ways to incorporate them into our celebrations...but it just wasn't the same. Life creates such bittersweet moments.
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My sister does not like to have her picture taken. I don't know why. She's beautiful. And I don't even take goofy pictures of her like our dad takes of me.
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Despite having eaten too much food and enjoying the gift giving, my feelings can still be hurt by a careless comment.
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Still waiting for part of my Christmas gift to my downstream secret pal to arrive. I blew it. I hope she understands.
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Christmas socks.
Wood stairs.
Moving too fast.
Fall down stairs.
Go boom.
GIANT bruise on my rear (and oddly numb spot...which worries me).
Thanking lucky stars I wasn't carrying the baby.
See...I CAN look at the bright side even if I look ridiculous "sitting crooked" (as Sam has deemed the one-cheek sitting pose).
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Sam was completely and totally spoiled. And Myles...I was certain we already had all the baby toys there were to have (from spoiling Sam)...But it seems there are still more out there.
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I really enjoyed the giving of gifts this year. I gave Steve and Sam a "six pack" of Indians tickets. And the toys...so many toys...so much fun.
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Facebook Yoville to PC Sims...it's a slippery slope. And it is very odd that despite my sister's assurances that "they can't do that," Angela (the girlfriend) stole baby Beau...just picked him up and carried him off without looking back. Very strange.
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I ate way too much food and may not need to eat again for a couple of weeks.
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My brother's fiancee has a little boy who is six years old. He is absolutely darling and he and Sam became fast friends. Sam, who was already adorably excited about having a cousin to play with, is beside himself.
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I miss my grandparents this time of year because we used to spend every Christmas with them. I tried to find ways to incorporate them into our celebrations...but it just wasn't the same. Life creates such bittersweet moments.
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My sister does not like to have her picture taken. I don't know why. She's beautiful. And I don't even take goofy pictures of her like our dad takes of me.
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Despite having eaten too much food and enjoying the gift giving, my feelings can still be hurt by a careless comment.
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Thursday, December 25, 2008
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Thank you Secret Pal!
A fabulous arrival on my doorstep today! Two GORGEOUS Rosewood crochet hooks, the latest issue of Interweave Crochet, a snowman mug with hot cocoa and candy canes, and a snowman tin filled with the YUMMIEST cookies (already three fewer)!
Thank you so much! And Happy Holidays to you!
Monday, December 22, 2008
It's an office job
Is the office important to you? How important?
My job is a job. I like it well enough, but my identity is not as defined by my work as my husband's is. It's an odd sort of situation to be in, trying to understand his desire to drive an hour in low-visibility snow and 21 degree winds to an office (when, as I understand it, the majority of his work can be done via computer from home).
Truth be told, I don't understand it. It makes me quite cranky, in fact. I am incredibly thankful to have a vacation day today whereas he does not seem at all deterred by roads that are described on the news broadcasts as "treacherous." AND he seems to think it humorous that I worry about his safety. It perplexes me. (Of course, he is equally perplexed by my temper tantrums over the lack of help with household chores...or the lack of "thank you" in this house.)
I guess it's true...men ARE from Mars...where it is snowy and cold and they are crazy stubborn.
My job is a job. I like it well enough, but my identity is not as defined by my work as my husband's is. It's an odd sort of situation to be in, trying to understand his desire to drive an hour in low-visibility snow and 21 degree winds to an office (when, as I understand it, the majority of his work can be done via computer from home).
Truth be told, I don't understand it. It makes me quite cranky, in fact. I am incredibly thankful to have a vacation day today whereas he does not seem at all deterred by roads that are described on the news broadcasts as "treacherous." AND he seems to think it humorous that I worry about his safety. It perplexes me. (Of course, he is equally perplexed by my temper tantrums over the lack of help with household chores...or the lack of "thank you" in this house.)
I guess it's true...men ARE from Mars...where it is snowy and cold and they are crazy stubborn.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Friday, December 19, 2008
My grief resume
Sometimes I read the blogs of new deadbabymama's and there is so much I want to say. Reassurances and cautions...hopes and warnings.
I've been where you are. I have navigated the path. And even if my choices are not your choices and you must blaze your own trail, there are things that are common...even for individual grief.
But I don't.
Instead, I offer, "I hope you find what you're looking for," or, "Be kind to yourself."
Because it isn't my place. I'm not qualified to offer anything.
I still cry. Not every day. But more often than before.
Before. I hate that word.
I AM happy. I have a LOT of happiness in my life. Maybe if I keep telling myself that, I won't feel the emptiness quite so deeply in those two spaces in my heart that happiness does not touch.
And then maybe I'll be qualified to say something.
I've been where you are. I have navigated the path. And even if my choices are not your choices and you must blaze your own trail, there are things that are common...even for individual grief.
But I don't.
Instead, I offer, "I hope you find what you're looking for," or, "Be kind to yourself."
Because it isn't my place. I'm not qualified to offer anything.
I still cry. Not every day. But more often than before.
Before. I hate that word.
I AM happy. I have a LOT of happiness in my life. Maybe if I keep telling myself that, I won't feel the emptiness quite so deeply in those two spaces in my heart that happiness does not touch.
And then maybe I'll be qualified to say something.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
SP Question #2
Part A: Are you doing any holiday knitting?
Nope. Doing SOME crocheting, but only snowflakes. I don't do well with pressure and so I have decided to let myself off the hook for the holidays.
Part B: Have you finished?
Finished the snowflakes...yes.
Nope. Doing SOME crocheting, but only snowflakes. I don't do well with pressure and so I have decided to let myself off the hook for the holidays.
Part B: Have you finished?
Finished the snowflakes...yes.
Of interest
Exhale
A Literary Magazine for Intelligent People Who Have Lost a Baby, Or Have Trouble Making Babies in the First Place.
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A Literary Magazine for Intelligent People Who Have Lost a Baby, Or Have Trouble Making Babies in the First Place.
Exhale is a unique new literary magazine written for & by ordinary people who have faced extraordinary obstacles to getting/staying knocked up, or who have experienced miscarriage and/or stillbirth. Exhale is published solely online.
Exhale is a space for creative expression. We seek out the gritty humor and
complexities of discovering that producing a child isn't as easy as your mother told you. Without succumbing to the belief that a person's self-worth and happiness are defined reproductive achievement, we recognize and validate the vast array of perspectives and emotions associated with pregnancy/infant loss and infertility issues.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Brain overload
It took me three tries to get everything packaged into the holiday package for my Secret Santa.
I've been to the store several times and always drive up the driveway when I get home and say, "Poor Santa, I forgot to buy a lightbulb for him again." (the giant plastic Santa on our front porch was knocked over during a wind storm and his light bulb stopped working)
It took me two hours to write the statement of the case in the appellate brief I'm working on today (never mind the seemingly endless misspellings and grammatical errors contained therein).
I forgot to eat my yogurt for breakfast and my apple with my lunch.
I had Steve mail Christmas cards...except he couldn't mail ONE because it didn't have any postage on it...no idea why. (Sorry Cynthia...it will get there eventually, I promise.)
I only have a bit more "Christmas stuff" to accomplish before the actual day...but I have two hearings and the aforementioned appellate brief due as well.
I'm afraid my brain may explode.
I've been to the store several times and always drive up the driveway when I get home and say, "Poor Santa, I forgot to buy a lightbulb for him again." (the giant plastic Santa on our front porch was knocked over during a wind storm and his light bulb stopped working)
It took me two hours to write the statement of the case in the appellate brief I'm working on today (never mind the seemingly endless misspellings and grammatical errors contained therein).
I forgot to eat my yogurt for breakfast and my apple with my lunch.
I had Steve mail Christmas cards...except he couldn't mail ONE because it didn't have any postage on it...no idea why. (Sorry Cynthia...it will get there eventually, I promise.)
I only have a bit more "Christmas stuff" to accomplish before the actual day...but I have two hearings and the aforementioned appellate brief due as well.
I'm afraid my brain may explode.
What is wrong with us?
Steve: Yeah, they should make holiday cards that say, "While I neither confirm nor deny the existence of a supreme deity, if one does it exist, I hope it blesses your holiday celebrations."
Me: A bit wordy, but I love it.
Steve: You are so going to blog this aren't you?
Me: A bit wordy, but I love it.
Steve: You are so going to blog this aren't you?
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Thank you Carly
My heartfelt thanks to Carly at To Write Their Names in the Sand for the beautiful images she makes available (see my sidebar).
Remembering Hannah
Please take a moment and go visit CLC as she remembers her daughter today on her first birthday.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Holiday meme
1. What time do you get up on x-mas morning? Not really early. Probably about 8am.
2. What do you want for Christmas? Camera accessories
3. What was the last film you saw at the movies? Just saw Bolt today! Loved it!
4. Will you watch the Lions on Thanksgiving? Nope
5. What do you usually have for x-mas breakfast? I usually make eggs and bacon.
6. Where will you be on Thanksgiving? We had Thanksgiving here at our house at our big dining room table. It was great!
7. What food do you dislike on the Holidays? Dislike? food?
8. Is all of you x-mas shopping done yet? nope...one more.
9. Real or fake x-mas tree? fake...don't want the cat issues that come with real ones.
10. Gift or Gift card? gifts...if you're going to give a gift card you might as well just give cash.
11. Favorite x-mas song? I have two...The Christmas Guest performed by Reba McEntire or Mary Did You Know? performed by Kathy Mattea
12. Favorite x-mas gift of all time? I honestly have NO idea
13. Would you ever Regift? yep
14. Favorite x-mas dinner? Christmas Eve...pizza. Christmas...don't really care by that point.
15. Do you go to the bar on thanksgiving eve? No
16. Favorite x-mas movie? Miracle on 34th Street
17. Are you a Grinch or a Santa? Santa!
18. How many x-mas parties are you going to? one
19. Person you expect to send this back first? no expectations at all
20. Christmas Eve or Christmas Day? Christmas Day...Christmas morning, to be exact.
21. Do you go to Church for x-mas? no
22. What is your slipper size? 9/10
23. Have you ever gotten a pet for x-mas? no...and I hope I never do
24. What's your star sign? Aquarius
25. What was your best Christmas from when you where little? They were all pretty much the same...traveling to see family out of state...nothing really stands out.
26. Where will you be for x-mas? at home
27. What is your favorite candy? chocolate!
28. What is your favorite x-mas cookie? jam thumbprints or sugar cookies
29. Thanksgiving or Christmas? Christmas
30. Candy Canes or Chocolate Santas? Candy canes
31. Favorite Holiday Drink? pumpkin spice latte for Thanksgiving and peppermint mocha for Christmas
32. Wrap gifts or bag them? wrap...unless they're odd shaped...I'm not going to kill myself trying too hard.
33. Does your family do x-mas stockings? yes
34. If you were a reindeer, which would you be? Blitzen
35. How is the weather right now? cold but clear
36. How many people do you shop for at x-mas? lucky thirteen, if you don't count the secret santa exchanges. if you do, sixteen.
37. Favorite mall to shop at? Millcreek Mall, Erie, PA
38. Favorite restaurant? Outback Steakhouse
39. Do you like snow? YES! I wouldn't live here in the Great Lakes snowbelt if I didn't.
40. What was your favorite toy as a child? Sally, the baby doll, when I was little. Merlin when I was older.
41. Summer or winter? I look awful in shorts and swimsuits...so definitely winter
42. Hugs or kisses? Nothing like a good hug
43. Chocolate or Vanilla? Chocolate!!!
44. Coffee or tea? Coffee!!!
45. Ski or Snowboard? Ski...I really need to get back out this year
46. When was the last time you went sledding? 2005, I think.
47. Where do you hide gifts that you buy? In the basement
48. What did you do last night? played on the computer
49. Snow Boots or Cute Boots? snow boots can be cute...you just have to look for them
50. Salty or sweet? sweet!!!
51. How many kids in your family still believe in Santa? all of them, that I know of.
52. Favorite Holiday Show? How the Grinch Stole Christmas.
53. Hot Cocoa or a Cold Beer? Cocoa...with marshmallows!
54. How many days will you get off for x-mas? I've got five days of vacation, one personal day, and I think I've still got some sick time I can take.
55. Red or Green? Red
56. How many people will you send this to? I'll blog it!
57. How many will respond? Probably nobody...but if you're so inclined, post this one to your own blog. It's fun! I promise.
Edited to add some from what mom sent me...
When do you put up the tree? The weekend after Thanksgiving
When do you take the tree down? After the New Year sometime
Do you like eggnog? yuck! no!
Hardest person to buy for? my brother's fiancee (I don't really know her)
Easiest person to buy for? my son
Do you have a nativity scene? yes, though it is safely tucked away in the basement
Mail or email Christmas cards? this year I managed mail!
Worst Christmas gift you ever received? Grandma used to give us some doozies. I'll have to compile a list.
When do you start shopping for Christmas? Black Friday!
Lights on the tree? white
Travel at Christmas or stay home? after traveling for all my childhood years, it is so nice to stay home with my own kids.
Can you name all of Santa's reindeer? of course!
Angel on the tree top or a star? we have an angel...but she is taking a vacation this year. too many cat and baby issues with the tree to risk her health.
Open the presents Christmas Eve? except the ones from Santa.
Most annoying thing about this time of the year? the hostility it seems to bring out in some people.
Favorite ornament, theme or color? My ornaments with my boys' names on them.
Favorite tradition in your house? Pizza party Christmas Eve at my parent's house.
2. What do you want for Christmas? Camera accessories
3. What was the last film you saw at the movies? Just saw Bolt today! Loved it!
4. Will you watch the Lions on Thanksgiving? Nope
5. What do you usually have for x-mas breakfast? I usually make eggs and bacon.
6. Where will you be on Thanksgiving? We had Thanksgiving here at our house at our big dining room table. It was great!
7. What food do you dislike on the Holidays? Dislike? food?
8. Is all of you x-mas shopping done yet? nope...one more.
9. Real or fake x-mas tree? fake...don't want the cat issues that come with real ones.
10. Gift or Gift card? gifts...if you're going to give a gift card you might as well just give cash.
11. Favorite x-mas song? I have two...The Christmas Guest performed by Reba McEntire or Mary Did You Know? performed by Kathy Mattea
12. Favorite x-mas gift of all time? I honestly have NO idea
13. Would you ever Regift? yep
14. Favorite x-mas dinner? Christmas Eve...pizza. Christmas...don't really care by that point.
15. Do you go to the bar on thanksgiving eve? No
16. Favorite x-mas movie? Miracle on 34th Street
17. Are you a Grinch or a Santa? Santa!
18. How many x-mas parties are you going to? one
19. Person you expect to send this back first? no expectations at all
20. Christmas Eve or Christmas Day? Christmas Day...Christmas morning, to be exact.
21. Do you go to Church for x-mas? no
22. What is your slipper size? 9/10
23. Have you ever gotten a pet for x-mas? no...and I hope I never do
24. What's your star sign? Aquarius
25. What was your best Christmas from when you where little? They were all pretty much the same...traveling to see family out of state...nothing really stands out.
26. Where will you be for x-mas? at home
27. What is your favorite candy? chocolate!
28. What is your favorite x-mas cookie? jam thumbprints or sugar cookies
29. Thanksgiving or Christmas? Christmas
30. Candy Canes or Chocolate Santas? Candy canes
31. Favorite Holiday Drink? pumpkin spice latte for Thanksgiving and peppermint mocha for Christmas
32. Wrap gifts or bag them? wrap...unless they're odd shaped...I'm not going to kill myself trying too hard.
33. Does your family do x-mas stockings? yes
34. If you were a reindeer, which would you be? Blitzen
35. How is the weather right now? cold but clear
36. How many people do you shop for at x-mas? lucky thirteen, if you don't count the secret santa exchanges. if you do, sixteen.
37. Favorite mall to shop at? Millcreek Mall, Erie, PA
38. Favorite restaurant? Outback Steakhouse
39. Do you like snow? YES! I wouldn't live here in the Great Lakes snowbelt if I didn't.
40. What was your favorite toy as a child? Sally, the baby doll, when I was little. Merlin when I was older.
41. Summer or winter? I look awful in shorts and swimsuits...so definitely winter
42. Hugs or kisses? Nothing like a good hug
43. Chocolate or Vanilla? Chocolate!!!
44. Coffee or tea? Coffee!!!
45. Ski or Snowboard? Ski...I really need to get back out this year
46. When was the last time you went sledding? 2005, I think.
47. Where do you hide gifts that you buy? In the basement
48. What did you do last night? played on the computer
49. Snow Boots or Cute Boots? snow boots can be cute...you just have to look for them
50. Salty or sweet? sweet!!!
51. How many kids in your family still believe in Santa? all of them, that I know of.
52. Favorite Holiday Show? How the Grinch Stole Christmas.
53. Hot Cocoa or a Cold Beer? Cocoa...with marshmallows!
54. How many days will you get off for x-mas? I've got five days of vacation, one personal day, and I think I've still got some sick time I can take.
55. Red or Green? Red
56. How many people will you send this to? I'll blog it!
57. How many will respond? Probably nobody...but if you're so inclined, post this one to your own blog. It's fun! I promise.
Edited to add some from what mom sent me...
When do you put up the tree? The weekend after Thanksgiving
When do you take the tree down? After the New Year sometime
Do you like eggnog? yuck! no!
Hardest person to buy for? my brother's fiancee (I don't really know her)
Easiest person to buy for? my son
Do you have a nativity scene? yes, though it is safely tucked away in the basement
Mail or email Christmas cards? this year I managed mail!
Worst Christmas gift you ever received? Grandma used to give us some doozies. I'll have to compile a list.
When do you start shopping for Christmas? Black Friday!
Lights on the tree? white
Travel at Christmas or stay home? after traveling for all my childhood years, it is so nice to stay home with my own kids.
Can you name all of Santa's reindeer? of course!
Angel on the tree top or a star? we have an angel...but she is taking a vacation this year. too many cat and baby issues with the tree to risk her health.
Open the presents Christmas Eve? except the ones from Santa.
Most annoying thing about this time of the year? the hostility it seems to bring out in some people.
Favorite ornament, theme or color? My ornaments with my boys' names on them.
Favorite tradition in your house? Pizza party Christmas Eve at my parent's house.
Merry Agnostic Christmas ( a small rant)
I am a bit tired of the guilt trips that seem to accompany the holiday season these days.
spend less on Christmas gifts...
spend more time with your children...
go to church...
bake cookies...
Bah humbug!
I don't question or comment on anyone's decisions how to celebrate their holidays...so I really wish they wouldn't look down their nose and question mine. Everyone has their own traditions...some I think are beautiful, some I think are silly, and some I think are downright ugly and awful. But my opinions stay my opinions. I have no need to give someone even a passing thought/worry that I might dis/approve.
I will celebrate this holiday the way I see fit for myself and my family. I will say "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas" if I want to. I will acknowledge the beliefs of my Jewish friends if I want to. I will acknowledge the beliefs of my pagan friends if I want to. And I'll spend however much I want on presents and food and decorations (I work hard for my money and I will spend it how I see fit).
If I want a magical Santa to visit my house, then Santa will visit. If I want my kid to sit on Santa's lap for a cute little picture, I REALLY don't want to hear about how Santa is probably a pedophile getting his jollies in an inappropriate way.
I will BUY premade cookies...and I don't need a reason other than I want to.
Yes, my family knows I love them without buying gifts. But I enjoy buying them gifts...it is FUN. Remember fun?
So I'm less faithful. Laying on guilt isn't going to change it.
I used to enjoy the holidays. Now I just can't stand all the moral judgments that come along with them. Live and let live...EVERY day.
spend less on Christmas gifts...
spend more time with your children...
go to church...
bake cookies...
Bah humbug!
I don't question or comment on anyone's decisions how to celebrate their holidays...so I really wish they wouldn't look down their nose and question mine. Everyone has their own traditions...some I think are beautiful, some I think are silly, and some I think are downright ugly and awful. But my opinions stay my opinions. I have no need to give someone even a passing thought/worry that I might dis/approve.
I will celebrate this holiday the way I see fit for myself and my family. I will say "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas" if I want to. I will acknowledge the beliefs of my Jewish friends if I want to. I will acknowledge the beliefs of my pagan friends if I want to. And I'll spend however much I want on presents and food and decorations (I work hard for my money and I will spend it how I see fit).
If I want a magical Santa to visit my house, then Santa will visit. If I want my kid to sit on Santa's lap for a cute little picture, I REALLY don't want to hear about how Santa is probably a pedophile getting his jollies in an inappropriate way.
I will BUY premade cookies...and I don't need a reason other than I want to.
Yes, my family knows I love them without buying gifts. But I enjoy buying them gifts...it is FUN. Remember fun?
So I'm less faithful. Laying on guilt isn't going to change it.
I used to enjoy the holidays. Now I just can't stand all the moral judgments that come along with them. Live and let live...EVERY day.
Friday, December 12, 2008
Frugal Friday
CVS
9 bags Hershey's
1 bag GummiSavers
1 Theraflu warming
2 Maybelline lipgloss
1 xmas generic post-its
1 candy can ink pen
1 bag gummy worms
1 photo travel mug
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$20.79 spent
$38.09 saved in coupons
$3.99 Theraflu rebate pending
Walgreens
1 impulse buy small gift for friend
1 crock candle
6 rolls Scotch gift wrap tape
2 Jane blushes
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$10.86 spent
$10.77 saved
$2 Scotch tape rebate pending
Tip for this week - Instead of allowing Sam to buy worthless junk at the school's Santa shop, I took him to the Dollar Store and he found decent gifts for everyone in the family without breaking the bank. AND he found gifts for his school Christmas party gift exchange. AND I found perfect gifts for my secret santa exchange at work. AND we bought Christmas wrapping paper and bows for all our Christmas packages. This really stretched our budget much farther than I thought possible. And we discovered that our store even has a frozen food section...if you need to stretch your grocery dollar.
9 bags Hershey's
1 bag GummiSavers
1 Theraflu warming
2 Maybelline lipgloss
1 xmas generic post-its
1 candy can ink pen
1 bag gummy worms
1 photo travel mug
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$20.79 spent
$38.09 saved in coupons
$3.99 Theraflu rebate pending
Walgreens
1 impulse buy small gift for friend
1 crock candle
6 rolls Scotch gift wrap tape
2 Jane blushes
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$10.86 spent
$10.77 saved
$2 Scotch tape rebate pending
Tip for this week - Instead of allowing Sam to buy worthless junk at the school's Santa shop, I took him to the Dollar Store and he found decent gifts for everyone in the family without breaking the bank. AND he found gifts for his school Christmas party gift exchange. AND I found perfect gifts for my secret santa exchange at work. AND we bought Christmas wrapping paper and bows for all our Christmas packages. This really stretched our budget much farther than I thought possible. And we discovered that our store even has a frozen food section...if you need to stretch your grocery dollar.
homework lessons
Me: Do you have your folder?
Sam: Yeah.
Me: Did you turn in all that homework you needed to turn in from when you were sick last week?
Sam: Yeah.
Imagine my surprise when I get home and see (strewn all across the dining room table) said homework. I mean, it wasn't even hidden where you could miss it!
I call Steve...
Steve: Hi!
Me: Explain to me how you two walked past all this homework all over the dining room table in order to get out of the house and still it didn't manage to get INTO the bookbag and turned in at school.
Steve: Wait a minute...When we were leaving the house this morning, I asked Sam if he had his folder and he said yes. I specifically asked him if he had all the homework he needed to turn in and he said yeah.
Me: So he lied to you?
Steve: Seems that way.
Me: He lied to me too. When I picked him up from school I asked him if he had turned in all that homework and he said yes.
Steve: I just don't know what to say.
Me: Why did you lie to your father and me about the homework?
Sam: I don't know.
Me: Did you think we wouldn't see it all over the dining room table?
Sam: Mommy, I just forgot.
Me: No...you didn't forget. You were reminded and you said you did something that you never did. That's lying. Why didn't you turn in the homework? Why lie about it?
Sam: My mind was just playing tricks on me.
Me: Oh, don't give me that (crap). Go get the homework, right now, and put it in your bookbag...and TURN IT IN TOMORROW. No privileges for a week.
(shortly later)
Sam: Mommy, how many days is a week?
Me: Seven.
Sam: awwwww maaaaan!
(shortly after that)
Sam: Mommy, I don't understand why I even have to GO to school...I mean...I don't LIKE it.
Me: (stifling a laugh) Because you have to learn things so you can grow up and work for NASCAR like you say you want to. You can't do that if you don't know math...or how to read and write...or science stuff.
Sam: (sigh)
Other than Steve freaking out about some work thing last night, it was so peaceful without television or playstation or computer. I had time to crochet! Admittedly, there is a bigger mess of toys in the house this morning from all the "active" play...but I really don't mind because the kid is gonna clean it up anyway (evil laugh).
Sam: Yeah.
Me: Did you turn in all that homework you needed to turn in from when you were sick last week?
Sam: Yeah.
Imagine my surprise when I get home and see (strewn all across the dining room table) said homework. I mean, it wasn't even hidden where you could miss it!
I call Steve...
Steve: Hi!
Me: Explain to me how you two walked past all this homework all over the dining room table in order to get out of the house and still it didn't manage to get INTO the bookbag and turned in at school.
Steve: Wait a minute...When we were leaving the house this morning, I asked Sam if he had his folder and he said yes. I specifically asked him if he had all the homework he needed to turn in and he said yeah.
Me: So he lied to you?
Steve: Seems that way.
Me: He lied to me too. When I picked him up from school I asked him if he had turned in all that homework and he said yes.
Steve: I just don't know what to say.
Me: Why did you lie to your father and me about the homework?
Sam: I don't know.
Me: Did you think we wouldn't see it all over the dining room table?
Sam: Mommy, I just forgot.
Me: No...you didn't forget. You were reminded and you said you did something that you never did. That's lying. Why didn't you turn in the homework? Why lie about it?
Sam: My mind was just playing tricks on me.
Me: Oh, don't give me that (crap). Go get the homework, right now, and put it in your bookbag...and TURN IT IN TOMORROW. No privileges for a week.
(shortly later)
Sam: Mommy, how many days is a week?
Me: Seven.
Sam: awwwww maaaaan!
(shortly after that)
Sam: Mommy, I don't understand why I even have to GO to school...I mean...I don't LIKE it.
Me: (stifling a laugh) Because you have to learn things so you can grow up and work for NASCAR like you say you want to. You can't do that if you don't know math...or how to read and write...or science stuff.
Sam: (sigh)
Other than Steve freaking out about some work thing last night, it was so peaceful without television or playstation or computer. I had time to crochet! Admittedly, there is a bigger mess of toys in the house this morning from all the "active" play...but I really don't mind because the kid is gonna clean it up anyway (evil laugh).
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Busy busy busy
The past few days have been crazy busy at work, and it doesn't look like it's going to let up anytime soon. I generally do not have so many court appearances scheduled so close together, so it's been an interesting time trying to juggle my cases, prepare for Christmas, and manage all the illnesses that keep visiting our house. I have found that I can survive quite well on five hours of sleep a night...and lots of coffee (Hershey mint truffle kisses also help quite a bit).
Monday, December 08, 2008
Laughter is the best medicine
I was going to blog about being sick again (third time since Halloween), but found this gem and thought it a good bit more interesting than my whining. I just don't even know what to say...I'm laughing too much.
Friday, December 05, 2008
Miscellaneous thoughts
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The screen dares me to write something...anything...but the words don't come. I can only find these little bits and pieces to share. I'm not sure what the problem is...but I'm hoping a trip to BlogHer in July will shake things loose again. Until then, you'll have to live with the bits and pieces.
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Sam has taken to saying, "Oh shit," when things don't go his way. Damn it all to hell.
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I'm wearing lipstick! It's taken more than two years, but I'm finding some fun in makeup and jewelry and pretty clothes again. It's weird.
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There is this whole "new" group of deadbabymamas in the blogosphere. It disturbs me.
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I got a new cell phone for (early) Christmas. Now I just have to figure out how to work it.
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Christmas shopping is kicking my butt. I still have so many gifts to get...not to mention the handful I'd like to MAKE. And I'd really love to bake some cookies this year. There may not be enough time to get it all done...we'll see.
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I have so much work to do. And I was handed two tax valuation cases this week. The fun never ends!
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Did you see the White House sent out invitations to a Jewish Holiday reception? with a drawing of a horse-drawn carriage delivering a Christmas tree on the front? I swear, I'm going to miss this President if only for the endless laughter he provided.
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Thanks for all your suggestions and comments. We did get the transport filled and Macy and her puppies will be on their way to rescue this Saturday (and hopefully a much better life with people who love them).
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Daisy made it through her oral surgery and, despite being about ten teeth lighter, is quite a happy little camper snarfing up her vet-ordered soft food this week. I'm going to have to post pics of her soon...maybe after she gets a good grooming. She is such a pretty old girl.
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Sam went Christmas caroling with Cub Scouts at a local nursing home the other day. Prior to that he didn't know what a nursing home was. Nor did he know any lyrics to any Christmas carols (or so he said...I KNOW he knows Jingle Bells). We made a half dozen handmade Christmas cards to hand out (crafty mom enjoyed that bit...but forgot to take pics...sorry)...and he had fun. So I guess we can declare success all around.
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I really really wish the gal in the office next to me would pick up her feet when she walks. The shuffling is getting on my nerves.
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This is how great of a parent I am the fourth time around. I still haven't sent away for Myles birth certificate. I JUST noticed that I never actually PAID for Myles' life insurance. Nice. I'm sure there are all kinds of Freudian implications hidden in there...but really...I just feel like a slug for not having done them. Off to correct that problem...!
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Did I show you this picture yet? Yes, like his brother before him, Myles has discovered the joy of playing in the dogs' water bowl.
At least my floors will be clean during this phase.
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The screen dares me to write something...anything...but the words don't come. I can only find these little bits and pieces to share. I'm not sure what the problem is...but I'm hoping a trip to BlogHer in July will shake things loose again. Until then, you'll have to live with the bits and pieces.
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Sam has taken to saying, "Oh shit," when things don't go his way. Damn it all to hell.
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I'm wearing lipstick! It's taken more than two years, but I'm finding some fun in makeup and jewelry and pretty clothes again. It's weird.
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There is this whole "new" group of deadbabymamas in the blogosphere. It disturbs me.
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I got a new cell phone for (early) Christmas. Now I just have to figure out how to work it.
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Christmas shopping is kicking my butt. I still have so many gifts to get...not to mention the handful I'd like to MAKE. And I'd really love to bake some cookies this year. There may not be enough time to get it all done...we'll see.
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I have so much work to do. And I was handed two tax valuation cases this week. The fun never ends!
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Did you see the White House sent out invitations to a Jewish Holiday reception? with a drawing of a horse-drawn carriage delivering a Christmas tree on the front? I swear, I'm going to miss this President if only for the endless laughter he provided.
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Thanks for all your suggestions and comments. We did get the transport filled and Macy and her puppies will be on their way to rescue this Saturday (and hopefully a much better life with people who love them).
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Daisy made it through her oral surgery and, despite being about ten teeth lighter, is quite a happy little camper snarfing up her vet-ordered soft food this week. I'm going to have to post pics of her soon...maybe after she gets a good grooming. She is such a pretty old girl.
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Sam went Christmas caroling with Cub Scouts at a local nursing home the other day. Prior to that he didn't know what a nursing home was. Nor did he know any lyrics to any Christmas carols (or so he said...I KNOW he knows Jingle Bells). We made a half dozen handmade Christmas cards to hand out (crafty mom enjoyed that bit...but forgot to take pics...sorry)...and he had fun. So I guess we can declare success all around.
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I really really wish the gal in the office next to me would pick up her feet when she walks. The shuffling is getting on my nerves.
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This is how great of a parent I am the fourth time around. I still haven't sent away for Myles birth certificate. I JUST noticed that I never actually PAID for Myles' life insurance. Nice. I'm sure there are all kinds of Freudian implications hidden in there...but really...I just feel like a slug for not having done them. Off to correct that problem...!
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Did I show you this picture yet? Yes, like his brother before him, Myles has discovered the joy of playing in the dogs' water bowl.
At least my floors will be clean during this phase.
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Wednesday, December 03, 2008
Going to be one of those days
Locked me keys in the car this morning while at the vet's office dropping off the "foster dog" for oral surgery. At least I didn't lock HER in too, right?
Keep your fingers crossed that the surgery goes well for her and rest of the day goes more smoothly for me. Thanks.
Keep your fingers crossed that the surgery goes well for her and rest of the day goes more smoothly for me. Thanks.
Tuesday, December 02, 2008
Dog rescue transport?
Dear internets...
Do you know anybody along this route who might give up an hour or two on Saturday afternoon to help transport a mama lab and her little puppies to rescue?
Youngstown, OH
Pittsburgh, PA
Somerset, PA
Breezewood, PA
Hagerstown, MD
Thanks!
Do you know anybody along this route who might give up an hour or two on Saturday afternoon to help transport a mama lab and her little puppies to rescue?
Youngstown, OH
Pittsburgh, PA
Somerset, PA
Breezewood, PA
Hagerstown, MD
Thanks!
Monday, December 01, 2008
THE look
I just got "that" look from Myles...the one I've seen a million times on Sam's face...the one that says, "Who me?!?! I'm not doing anything bad...I promise."
I suspect he was teasing the cats.
And now I'm pretty sure I'm in for a boatload of trouble with this one.
I suspect he was teasing the cats.
And now I'm pretty sure I'm in for a boatload of trouble with this one.
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