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My bargains this week

$25.33 at CVS

It was a good (but not great) week for the bargain shopping...though Sam is really happy with all the batteries for his Thomas the Tank Engine trains.

And as if by some magical alignment of the planets, punch balloons sell for $0.50 each at Walgreens. I bought six.

I was also able to stock up on their boxed assorted birthday cards. I got 24 cards for $3! Yay! Now I just have to remember to send them at the appropriate times...

I went to the grocery store and spent $105.21 for groceries for the week. And SAVED $48.81!!!

If anyone knows anything...'d be you ladies...

Does anyone know anything about Brenda???

(AND...I've lost my password...grrrr!)

New York Legislators Kill Bill for Grieving Mothers

Albany, NY (June 26, 2008) --- SB8960 would have helped to provide much-needed comfort, dignity, and accurate documentation to women and their families experiencing the death of a baby just prior to or during birth. Yet, despite overwhelming support from individual legislators, including 53 Democrat and Republican sponsors, a powerful minority of reproductive rights activist legislators have “killed the bill” as of 11:00 p.m. on the last day of session.

All states, including New York, wherein nearly 2000 babies are stillborn each year, require the family to pay for funeral expenses, and a death certificate/report is issued after a stillbirth. Yet, New York, unlike 23 other states, will not offer women the choice of a Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth. During a presidential election year, when women’s choices are a top priority for candidates, this topic is highly provocative.

“There is an enormity to this public health issue,” says Dr. Joanne Cacciatore, an expert in traum…

It's the end of the world...

...when you're six years old
and you get a big red punch balloon as a party favor
and you and your father blow it up with an air pump while your mother laughs
and you enjoy exactly thirty-seven minutes of playing with it
before it pops...

*I just want my balloooooooonnn...
I love that balloooooooonnn...
I didn't want it to pooooooopppp...
It was my faaaaaaavorite.
(repeat from * ad nauseum)

The boy has a zillion dollars worth of fancy toys to play with. Yet the untimely destruction of a $0.50 punch balloon is enough to send him into a hysterical fit of grief and despair.

Oh, to be six years old again...

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Welcome to the world Sophia Grace and Danielle Joy!

My dear friend, M, delivered her twin girls early via c-section. According to M's mother-in-law, Dani weighed 3.4 lbs and Sophia weighed 3.14 lbs (so tiny). I don't have any more details yet, but I hope that all is well and everyone is happy and healthy.

Gotta be some kind of record

Two days at daycare and the littlest one brought home the creeping crud. Snot and vomit for a week from he's feeling better and Steve and I are sick. Fun stuff. (H...I'm just going to apologize in advance if any of you gets sick. I really thought he was over it and since we hadn't gotten sick, I figured we weren't contagious. I was wrong. I'm so so sorry.)

But on a positive note...Myles is seven months old (can you believe that?) and weighs 19 lbs, 1 oz. He is 27.5 inches tall. He had NO problems adapting to daycare and seems generally happy.

We took both boys to get studio photos taken and ended up spending A LOT of money. We couldn't help ourselves. We've waited SO LONG to have photos of our children together. Not that Sam's solo photos aren't gorgeous. But the cutesy "Brothers from the start, Friends to the end" that was printed on one of the portraits means something entirely different to me.

One of the things that caused me an …

Thank you Secret Pal

This was waiting for me last night when I got home from Sam's tee-ball game. A handmade stamped card, a gauge ruler, a magnetic list pad, and some adorable stitch markers. Thank you Secret Pal!

Edited to add:
Oh MY! It's a good thing my son wanted to play with the box! He took out the tissue on the bottom and discovered the most gorgeous handpainted cashmere yarn! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! (I WILL be checking packages more closely from now on!)

Stillbirth news

First Candle is pleased to announce its full support of the Preventing Stillbirth and Sudden Unexpected Infant Death Act of 2008 which was introduced on Tuesday, June 17th by U.S. Senator Barack Obama of Illinois. The bill would establish a national stillbirth and SUID registry and promote prevention and risk reduction activities nationwide.

Each year, more than 25,000 women in the United States experience a stillbirth and approximately 4,500 infants die suddenly and unexpectedly. First Candle, a leading health organization dedicated to safe pregnancies and the survival of babies through the first year of life, has served as a lead advisor to Senator Obama in crafting the bill.

First Candle urges you to write to your Senators and encourage them to join Senator Obama by adding their name as cosponsor of this important legislation.

Additionally, we also invite you to support H.R. 5979, the Stillbirth Awareness and Research Act of 2008, introduced b…

Quick question

How long do you have, after a baby is born, to send a baby gift? Does it become inappropriate after a certain length of time?

Father's Day 08

We shared a look when the visibly pregnant woman walked by...two small children bouncing around her...cigarette in her hand. I glanced at him and saw the hurt in his eyes. In one split second we both KNEW what the other was thinking. "I know...can you believe THAT?...some people don't have a clue...I want to run up and shake her and yell about our two dead babies and how incredibly lucky she incredibly SELFISH and STUPID she is...but let's not talk about it ok?...let's leave it alone for today...we all need a break from the hurt today."

This shared perspective...shared's always there. Even on Father's Day at the zoo with the two beautiful boys we love more than anything in this world. ESPECIALLY on Father's Day with our two beautiful boys.

It was a glorious day for which there are happy memories that will always make us smile...and that one moment when all the pain of our world was unleashed and simultaneously stuffed back into its …

Miscellaneous thoughts

Last weekend we had a brief and very violent windstorm that tore a healthy limb from the giant old oak tree in our front yard. That limb crashed down on the power line running from the roadside pole to our house...literally ripping the electric connection from the side of our house. Had to call the fire department so they could tape off the area in this oh-so-lovely DANGER tape.

We were without power overnight and only given a temporary connection by the power company. We had to call a licensed electrician to repair the damage lines and connection on the house itself.

Since we had no idea how much such a repair should run us, I called my connections at the county building department and asked for the name of a couple reputable electricians. Steve called a couple of them with the intention of getting a quote. One replied to a message left on his voicemail and said he was headed out to our house to "see what we have going on."

By the next day we still hadn't heard back from…

Back to the future

This place has become awkward for me and I've been trying to pinpoint why. Yes, there is the standard, "If Alex had lived, Myles wouldn't be here," issue to deal with. But I expected that. I didn't expect these other complicated thoughts to create such a block that seem to make it impossible to write at all. I've given it a lot of thought and I have come up with three reasons I'm having difficulty here in this space...

1. I am suffering from some strange sort of survivor's guilt. It feels foreign to be happy and it feels even more foreign to express that I'm happy. But next to the happiness is the fear...sitting quietly in the wings waiting to take center stage. I keep waiting...for those familiar grief feelings to drop on me like a lead balloon...squashing me into oblivion.

I'm also ever-aware of what it's like to NOT be happy and how my happiness might unintentionally cause someone reading this blog additional pain. I haven't been ent…

Days go by

Tomorrow is the big day. The bottles, baby food, bowl, spoon, bib, diapers, wipes, change of clothes, toys, blankets and binkies are all packed in the daycare bag that used to be Sam's.

I know it's going to be fine. I know it. But it still hurts a little bit.

Wish us both luck...that we don't miss each other so much that we fall more than him.

All the news that's fit to print

The lawnmower is broken and the lawn is a veritable jungle complete with its own wildlife population. My gardens are a mess because I'm never home with two free hands when it's not raining or humid and HOT (like a zillion degrees). I'm slightly overwhelmed by my gardens, to be honest. They are so far-gone that I just don't even know where to start. I tried pulling weeds a few weeks back (it's a great exercise when you're angry with your husband)...but it started to rain and I didn't get very far. I'm hoping to really get to it on Sunday...if for nothing else than to get some bulbs and veggie plants in the ground.

Things SHOULD be calm for the summer. But even as I type that, I'm making a mental list of all the upcoming events we've planned "for fun." I know if they're anything like the "fun" things we've been doing lately, I will be glad when they are over and I can quietly peruse the photos from the comfort of my nice…

Secret Pal 12!

1. What is/are your favorite yarn/s to knit with? What fibers do you absolutely *not* like? My recent favorite is anything with bamboo in it. I also enjoy alpaca and, of course, silk. I do NOT like wool because I'm allergic. It kind of takes the fun out of stitching if I turn into an itchy strawberry who sneezes.

2. What do you use to store your needles/hooks in?
I have a wicker hamper that I use at home and a needle roll for travel (it came with the Mary Poppins style sewing bag a friend gave me).

3. How long have you been knitting & how did you learn? Would you consider your skill level to be beginner, intermediate or advanced?
I am a beginning knitter and an advanced crocheter. My mom introduced me many moons ago and I've been doing it off and on ever since.

4. Do you have an Amazon or other online wish list?
Amazon - yes

5. What's your favorite scent?
Sweet and/or homey scents...vanilla, cinnamon, mint

6. Do you have a sweet tooth? Favorite candy?
Chocolate, chocolate, choc…

Weekly SP questions

What's your favorite summertime drink?

For some unknown reason, iced tea is strongly associated with summertime for me. I like flavored tea all the time (hot and cold) and my particular favorite is peach.

As a kid, what did you look forward to most about summer vacation/break/holiday?

Riding bikes from sun up until sundown (and sometimes later). We lived in a little subdivision with cul-de-sacs at either end of a pretty big hill. My best friend lived at one end and we lived at the other. We would go back and forth between our houses all day long. Coasting down that much fun.

What would you consider the perfect amount of stash?

I thought you could never have enough...and seeing this proves my theory correct. Still.Not.Enough. I think I will never see a "perfect" amount of stash in my lifetime...though I'm going to have a lot of fun TRYING.

What yarn (that you don’t have/haven’t used) would make your stash “complete”? What yarn do you never want to be without?