Why are you under the impression that when people say what they say, they're implying your losses were some kind of punishment from god?
I did not say punishment...I said judgment.
"God has a plan" implies that where I was headed (with my pregnancies with Alex and Travis) was somehow NOT according to God's plan...and now I am headed in the right direction.
Somehow everything is now as it is "meant to be"...now that my babies are dead.
My babies being dead is "better" than being alive because it is according to some grand plan.
There is implied judgment there.