Sunday, May 14, 2006

Happy Mother's Day

I didn't get anyone a Mother's Day card this year. I usually shop in the last week before the day and I just couldn't find any cards that said what I was feeling. "Here's hoping your Mother's Day doesn't suck as bad as mine" is apparently not a Hallmark sentiment.

But I've been reading some blogs and have a few less sarcastic thoughts which I will share with you (Sorry...I have no mercy for your souls).

To everyone on the road to becoming a mother...by whatever route...

I can't tell you you will get there. But I hope you will. I hope all your dreams come true.

To everyone who is a mother...with living or deceased children...

I won't say "count your blessings" because that, quite frankly, makes me want to vomit. But I will say "cherish the happiness...whatever amount you have been blessed with." If misfortune visits you, you will have good memories to look back on.

Sadly, I have very little of that from my time with my sweet Travis. I spent so much time in denial, so much time afraid to fall in love, that the happy memories are few and far between. Even the shortest life...even the life of a 20-week stillborn boy...is worth celebrating with happiness and not regret.

Be proud of your motherhood...for whatever time you have/had it. You are/were part of the miracle of life. No matter what you believe...God or not...YOU were an integral part of creating life. That is amazing.

Thank your mother. You are here because she was strong enough to take the risk that her heart would be broken into a million pieces. I can think of no greater love.

Happy Mother's Day

17 comments:

Kathy McC said...

Happy Mother's Day to you too. (((hugs)))

Sherry (Hallesmom) said...

Happy Mother's Day Catherine.

Jen said...

Happy Mother's Day Kate. Lots of love.

Sarah said...

Your words are so true.

Happy Mother's Day, Kate.

Heather said...

Happy Mother's day, Kate. You deserve one and many more to come.

Anam Cara said...

Your way with words always amazes me. Happy Mother's Day to you Catherine. (((hugs)))

Laura said...

That was so beautiful. Happy Mother's Day, Catherine.

Dana said...

happy mother's day sis. i love you!

R said...

Happy Mother's Day.

ethanbsmommy said...

Happy Mothers day. I'm in awe that you can find such beauty in your soul to share.
The picture of Travis is beautiful.

kate said...

Happy Mother's Day to you too! (((((((many hugs))))))

Sweet Coalminer said...

Happy Mother's Day. Beautiful sentiments.

W said...

Happy Mother's Day to you.

Lola said...

You have an amazing strength to be able to write such beautiful words when your life has been torn apart again. Thank YOU.

miraclebaby said...

That was beautiful and tender and so true. Thank you for sharing with all of us, and I hope you can find peace as you have to travel down this road of grief yet again. And you are right, every life deserves to be celebrated no matter how short. I myself have thought that, too but have not figured out how to celebrate our first daughter, and yesterday was filled with thoughts of what should have been rather than what is....

Deciding to have children is more of a risk than I ever knew and I am so glad my mom took that risk. Thank you again.

Lisa said...

Happy Mother's Day Kate! Your words and strength amaze me.

Diana said...

I Hope you had a great Mother's Day.