Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Goodbye sweet baby Carli Mae

Carli Mae was born on Tuesday, March 20th at 11:12 a.m. by c-section. She was pink and perfectly beautiful. Her daddy went to the NICU with her while the doctors tried to stabilize her for the trip to Children's Hospital. Her parents found out at a 29-week ultrasound that Carli suffered from Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia.

Despite everyone's best efforts, Carli could not stay on this earth with her family. She was taken off the ventilator and she died at 11:32pm, exactly 12 hours and 20 minutes after she was born. Her family was able to bathe her and dress her in the super sweet pink creeper that said, "Daddy's little girl," and the soft socks, and the hat that her great grandma crocheted for her. Then they did the thing that no parent should have to do...they said goodbye to their baby and let her go.

I have never met Darcie, Carli's mom. But we have been friends since we both logged online to the "Due in June 2002" message board. She is an amazing and beautiful woman with an amazing and beautiful family. And now she joins this club of mothers with invisible children...this club that we all hate but have no choice about our membership.

The visitation is tonight and the funeral is tomorrow.

Darcie, my dear friend...if you need me, I will be there. You name it and it is yours. I never wanted anyone to understand this pain. It is one thing to meet people this has happened to...it is quite another for it to happen to someone you consider a friend. I love you and I am so so sorry.

13 comments:

Penultimatina said...

Much, much love to you and your family, Darcie.

Aurelia said...

Please tell your friends that many people out here are thinking of them and praying for them. This is so so sad.

DD said...

My deepest sympathies...

r_is_moody said...

My heart breaks for Darcie and her family.

Brenda said...

I am so very sorry for the lose that Carli's family are now going through.
Please let them all know that even though I don't know them I will be thinking of them at the heart breaking time.

Hugs
xxx

Patience said...

Heartbreaking....

Thoughts and love coming from the other side of the world... x

Jill said...

My thoughts and love are with Darcie and her family. I'm so sorry.

msfitzita said...

Oh God, I'm so sorry. I'm sorry for Darcie and her husband, for their beautiful little Carli and for you, Catherine, having to know all too well what agonizing pain your friend is in.

Thinking of all of you...

(((((HUGS))))

Hedda said...

I know what you mean by not wanting anyone to understand this pain.

I know how hard it can be to take care of a friend in this situation. Make sure that you take care of yourself.

I am sorry for your friend and her family. Send people to my WalkAmerica site to help fight prematurity and birth defects.

www.walkamerica.org/hedda

Ruby said...

My deepest condolences.

niobe said...

I'm so sorry.

miraclebaby said...

My sympathies and prayers go out to her family.

Diana said...

My condolences.
You're right- no parent should ever have to go through this...