Friday, November 03, 2006

Maybe the answer is NO

Dear Stephen & Catherine,

Thank you for your interest in _______________’s adoption program. Based on the limited openings available in our program, we regret we are unable to contract with you at this time.

We receive and review over 250 adoptive family applications each month. We must logically weigh our ability to help each family, based on their adoption preferences, the preferences of our current families and current birthmother requests. Because of our program limitations openings at this time, it would not be fair to accept your contract fee when we would be concerned that you may not be matched with a birthmother within our two year contract term.

However, our experience has shown that opportunities can become available. With your permission, we would like to keep your application and information on file for three to six months, to see if these opportunities arise and then we can help you on a formal basis.

I would like to recommend a helpful adoption book that will provide you with the resources and knowledge to help you adopt. It will walk you through a safe adoption step-by-step, teaching you tips for completing your adoption quickly and without spending a fortune.

Included are 1,200 hand-selected adoption resources for families seeking referrals and references for adoption assistance and support. I have enclosed a special link for a $10 off coupon.

As a special gift, we'd also like to send you a CD entitled ____________________. This powerful interview with the author is an hour long and contains exclusive adoption advice you can't find anywhere else. This is a $14.95 value and we're including it with your book order with our compliments.

To learn more about __________________ or to order your copy with a $10 discount and the special gift, please order online by following this link. You may also place an order by phone at ____________________. I hope this helps you get started.

Thank you for considering ______________________ as your adoption professional. Please accept our best wishes as you seek to build your family through adoption.

Warm Regards,


There are so many things I could say about this. But I just don't have the energy anymore. I'm done.

15 comments:

Holley said...

Sh!t.

Are they the only agency you would consider using?

Hugs.

Kathy McC said...

I thought the "We'll keep your resume on file" was only for job applicant rejection. That's horrible. Nice canned response.

(((hugs)))

Jill said...

I'm sorry:) Like you say, there are so many things to be said, but where do you start? (((hugs)))

Julie said...

Oh Cathy, I just don't know what to say. I am shocked. Sending you lots of hugs, and wishing I could do more.

Kerry said...

I am so sorry to hear your news. This agency obviously sucks and isn't worthy of your time or energy. Don't give up hope! There's got to be other agencies out there that would love to give such a wonderful mom a new baby to love. Keep your chin up sweetie! I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers!

kate said...

'Oh shit' was the first thing that came to my mind. Then, as i read the end (which i had to read three times because i couldn't believe it), more words came to mind but they are not really printable. So i will keep it to myself...

three minute palaver said...

I sorry this letter was so awful. You deserve better. I hope there are other Adoption agency's that you can apply to, that will be more available to your needs. Thinking of you.

Laura said...

My first thought was also 'oh shit' and then 'you've got to be kidding me.' I know that this letter makes it seem like the final big eff-you, thanks for playing. It's not, Catherine. Please keep applying, I don't know what is up with this particular agency. When you're an agency dealing with people's emotions like this, it's cruel to send a form letter and a coupon. We're tiptoeing into the world of adoption (international), but we haven't even applied yet. That took a lot of courage to send that in, and I'm so proud of you guys. If this is really what you want, please keep trying.

Dolores said...

There are no words to express my anger at that company :(

You were all so brave to send that in and I just know there is an agency out there that will do justice to your family.

We love you Kate(and the men of your life ;) We will continue to love and to pray for you all {hugs}

Sherry (Hallesmom) said...

*hugs* Catherine and Steve. That letter sucks. I hope there are other groups you were thinking of applying with and do. I can't imagine how fed up and exhausted you are at this point. *big hugs*

MB said...

That sucks. You guys deserve better than that.

Hugs,
M

Sweet Coalminer said...

Oh my goodness. That letter is so gentle and so harsh all at the same time. I'm sorry Catherine.

BethGo said...

I'm really sorry to hear this. Thinking of you.

R said...

If I know you at all, Catherine, I don't think you're DONE, I think you're done for today.

What an annoying letter. Aren't there other agencies out there?

GLouise said...

Hi Sweet C- I think I know the org you are referring to, and you would NOT want to work with them anyway.

Does it start with an "L," and is located in the boonies of Ca?

If so, I'll send some more details on what i have heard about them...