Monday, January 09, 2006

Yeah, sure

I'd LOVE to see your happy-baby-at-Christmas pictures. I don't suppose you'd like to see a picture of Alex's grave at Christmas, would you? We decorated it really nice with a little Christmas tree and a poinsetta. Oh, see, now I'm being snarky.

(In my most polite and respectful tone of voice...) Can't you see that every happy baby picture just shows me what I'm missing? What the f*ck is wrong with you? Don't you have a heart? (Oops...I think I lost that polite and respectful tone of voice somewhere.)

3 comments:

cat said...

Crap... I'm so sorry you have to be surrounded by such insensitivity.

*hugs*

gabesmama said...

Hi Catherine,

Thanks for helping me lately. You are definitely my cyber sister. It is funny because you posted something like this about Christmas photos/cards and just after you did I received one that really hurt me. After losing Gabe, I talked with a friend who is long distance from me now. She just had a D&C. She was trying to get pregnant again when I was but then I lost again. She and I haven't been in contact through my own fault and then the Christmas card. Sure enough she had a BEAUTIFUL girl. It hurt. It hurt because I was trying at that time too and only had more loss. I hated that picture. It hurt so much. Yet, if I have a child I don't know that i wouldn't do the whole Christmas card photo thing. I know before I had loss I used to like getting them a lot and it didn't hurt like it does now. So maybe the answer is to not send them to people who you KNOW have just lost a baby.

rach said...

We didn't send a picture of Lucy to our friends who just experienced a stillbirth. In my opinion that could be constituted as cruel and unusual punishment.