God needed another angel.
God doesn't "need" anything. And even if he did, he wouldn't be so selfish as to steal my baby to satisfy himself.
It's all part of God's plan or the alternatively wonderful I guess it wasn't meant to be.
What plan would that be? There is no justification that could possibly explain taking an innocent life and creating suffering and pain in it's absence. God wouldn't be so deliberately cruel as to play with our lives for the development of some master plan that we don't get to know about until we're dead. My God loves me and wouldn't wish harm on me or my family for ANY reason.
He's in a better place now.
But I want him here with me!
God doesn't give us more than we can handle.
God doesn't "give" us anything. He set up the rules a long time ago and now he plays by them. So yes, there ARE some things that are more than we can handle.
Prayer can do wonderful things.
I'm sorry, but prayer doesn't do squat. Accept the fact that life is random and you're at the mercy of that randomness. My baby didn't die because I didn't pray enough. My uncle didn't get cancer because he didn't pray enough. That's absurd and an insult to God if you believe it. He doesn't punish those who lose their way...nor does he reward those who are especially focused.
You can always have another.
Do you KNOW that? Do you know that the bacteria I cart around in my uterus isn't going to kill the next baby? And even if you do know that, how f*cking insensitive to suggest that I can just replace one child with another.
No, you don't. I know you mean well, but you can't possibly understand unless you've been here. You may well be able to imagine what this feels like...but you don't understand.
I don't know how you do it.
What's my alternative? I guess I could kill myself. How would you suggest I do so? Good grief...what an assinine thing to say.
It's such a blessing that you have a living child.
Yes, yes it is. But it does not eliminate the huge gaping hole in my life where my dead son is supposed to be.
I'm past the first trimester so I don't have to worry anymore.
Really? If only I could go back to that naivete.