Friday, July 29, 2005

Life is unfair

I received some sad news the other day. I've been trying to digest it before posting about it because I didn't want this post to be all about anger.

I have a friend in animal rescue who is unable to have biological children with her husband. I have never inquired about the problem, so I don't know what it is medically that prevents them from having a baby. But after eleven years, they were on the road to adoption. They were chosen by a birth mother to be the parents of a baby boy due in September. They were over-the-moon-happy. They went on a short four-day vacation as it would be the last baby-free time they would have.

On the third day, they received a phone call that would take them from over-the-moon-happy to the depths of sadness and despair. The birth mother had gone into premature labor and, due to a prolapsed cord, delivered a stillborn baby boy.

I thought it could not be worse than what Steve and I, and so many other couples, had been through. But I see this situation and think how sad it is that TWO mothers lost a son. They both had hopes and dreams for their boy. They both wanted him to grow up loved and happy. They both planned so much for his LIFE. And they will both grieve his passing.

As will I.


vixanne wigg said...

That is really really tragic. I don't even know what to say about. How complex and painful.

MB said...

Oh, that's just awful. These losses just reach out and affect so many people. It just amazes me every time I hear a story about someone somewhere...