I guess this borders on political. It's about as "universal" as I get on this blog...
Why...why...why...WHY is it considered OK for a doctor to diagnose ANYTHING over the TELEPHONE?!?!?!
Let me back up here. In case you don't remember, in the weeks leading up to Alex's death, I SAW my OB and my regular doctor in person. They both misdiagnosed my uterine infection as an upper respiratory/sinus infection. I CALLED to complain that the course of treatment (OTC decongestant and tylenol) was not working. I KNEW something was wrong (though I did not know it was related to the pregnancy) and nobody would listen to me. Now I'm pregnant again and, admittedly, I am much more cautious.
But I can not get over the number of women on the internet 'pregnant after loss' message boards who are willing to have their doctor 'reassure' them over the telephone. We're talking women who notice movement changes in their babies. We're talking women who have bleeding. We're talking women who have classic symptoms of gestational diabetes or iron deficiencies or other issues that need management/treatment
And yet, when these women express their feelings, the repeatedly qualify them with, "I don't want to make a fuss over nothing." They call their doctor and when their doctor tells them there is "nothing to worry about," they accept that...without EVER BEING SEEN! As if their doctor has some magical diagnostic ability over the phone lines.
Now I don't want to create mass hysteria...but this is INSANE! In NO other area of medicine (that I am aware of) is it acceptable to diagnose someone over the telephone. So why is it ok during pregnancy? What are we accomplishing by consistently downplaying our fears? by patting women on the head and telling them not to worry (their pretty little heads)?
I'll tell you what we are accomplishing...A great game of Russian roulette...with our babies' lives. The odds MAY be in your favor and you will MOST LIKELY be ok. But MY GOD...why take that chance?!?!
Let me tell you one thing, if you are unlucky enough to get that one bullet right in the temple...you will wonder the exact same thing I am wondering now. And then it will be too late.
But even more interesting is the fact that this is a group of women who are pregnant AFTER LOSS. You would think they would be much more careful...much more demanding...of the medical treatment they receive.