I Google "stillbirth study" at least once a week. And something that continues to shock me is the incredible LACK of any sort of studies about women in my situation...women who contract bacterial and/or viral infections that result in the death of their unborn baby.
Even more disturbing are the dozens of articles I find on the relationship between age and weight and stillbirth.
Risk of stillbirth doubles in mothers over 35
Pregnancy pounds may harm newborn
Too much weight gain in pregnancy raises risks
Modest weight gain makes for a riskier second pregnancy
Weight gain between pregnancies dangerous
Weight Gain May Endanger Pregnancy
Now, I'm the first to cheer on any effort to reduce the number of stillbirths in this world. If women can effectively eliminate risk factors and take home a living baby as a result, so much the better.
I was overweight. I am overweight. I got the disapproving looks and the lectures. My weight wasn't responsible for the death of my babies. And those who delivered those lectures never apologized for giving me the impression that it was all my fault...just for being fat.
I am high risk because I am 'older,' though I'm not quite in the 35+ set just yet. My age wasn't responsible for the death of my babies. And those who cautioned me about my age never apologized for giving me the impression that it was all my fault...for being old.
This culture that it is all controllable...that if a baby is stillborn, the mother MUST have done something to cause it...is so pervasive that I never even recognized it before now. Even the doctors and researchers look at all those things that women can control (that I am pretty sure we've already established just by common sense). Where is the work being done on the mysterious? The non-obvious? Why isn't anyone interested in getting ME an answer beyond the overly simplistic, "You're fat," or, "You're old"???