tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post2494103972614574471..comments2023-09-23T07:24:36.217-04:00Comments on Everything Is Under Control: Anger revisited?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-12865585294104278212007-02-27T14:15:00.000-05:002007-02-27T14:15:00.000-05:00I think anger is an unfortunate side effect of sor...I think anger is an unfortunate side effect of sorrow. I have it too, and it bursts out quite unexpectedly. And shockingly.<BR/><BR/>I don't know what the answer is, but part of me thinks it's good that we are still capable of feeling anything at all. Anger isn't nice to feel, but it means we're not numb. It means that the sorrow hasn't completely smothered us. It means we <I>can</I> still feel.<BR/><BR/>As far as enough time passing, I read a document (intended for physicians) that indicated that most parents who lose a child say it takes between 2 and 5 years to start feeling "normal" again - or to have fully embraced the "new normal", I suppose. <BR/><BR/>You had sorrow heaped upon sorrow. I believe this about everyone, but you especially shouldn't have to (or try to) fit into the "standard" time frame for healing from losses as profound as yours.<BR/><BR/>It's a journey, and you get there when you get there.<BR/><BR/>And I'm always here walking with you, if that helps at all.<BR/><BR/>((((HUGS))))msfitzitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17174138130763427353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-47378456095513028392007-02-26T21:18:00.000-05:002007-02-26T21:18:00.000-05:00*I'm* not expecting you to 'move on', even if i do...*I'm* not expecting you to 'move on', even if i don't email very often ;)<BR/><BR/>I think the anger/sadness just goes in cycles...and i hope you are able to be on an upward cycle soon...and yeah, smashing things helps too...katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-17471707937447781132007-02-26T19:09:00.000-05:002007-02-26T19:09:00.000-05:00Huge hugs!I hate how the sadness, anger and guilt ...Huge hugs!<BR/>I hate how the sadness, anger and guilt sneaks up on you.<BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/>xxxBrendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13142512974305818397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-49142983397351879832007-02-26T16:18:00.000-05:002007-02-26T16:18:00.000-05:00I wonder if the anger ever completely goes away. I...I wonder if the anger ever completely goes away. It still catches me unawares on occasion with such a ferocity that I fear I may break something. (Stomping my feet loudly and throwing a few pillows around sometimes helps a bit)<BR/><BR/>So, here's a (((hug))) and remember that we're here for you to vent at whenever you need to.Ann Howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330639889849276318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-19623392545659561032007-02-26T15:43:00.000-05:002007-02-26T15:43:00.000-05:00Hey mama...I don't know how you feel in terms of i...Hey mama...I don't know how you feel in terms of it being long enough to get back to the "real world", b/c Catti died so recently I'm not really there yet. But I know when my mom died, when I was 21, I felt the same way. For awhile I had all this awesome love and support and then all of a sudden...it was like I should just be over it. And everyone else's lives went on, but I was forever without my mom, and for milestone times (I got married like six months after she died, etc) I think I am really blessed this time to have a lot of supportive people in my life, who will continue to offer the support i need, and also i think it's ok to realize it's a season in your life where you may not have much to give. often you don't realize how much you give just by being. but even so, there are times when people in my life have had nothing to give me, but now when i need them, they have been giving me so much...it's a cycle of life i think.<BR/><BR/>sorry to ramble, my heart just goes out to you *hugs*<BR/>JENJENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931773798744080086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-75612062621640718062007-02-26T15:12:00.000-05:002007-02-26T15:12:00.000-05:00I'm not very good at the moving on concept... And ...I'm not very good at the moving on concept... And am angry a lot... A year ago or so I was wandering through the book section at a large grorcery store and ended up buying this book:<BR/><BR/>Good Grief<BR/>by Lolly Winston<BR/><BR/>Thirty-six-year-old Sophie Stanton desperately wants to be a good widow-a graceful, composed, Jackie Kennedy kind of widow. Alas, she is more of the Jack Daniels kind. Self-medicating with ice cream for breakfast, breaking down at the supermarket, and showing up to work in her bathrobe and bunny slippers-soon she's not only lost her husband, but her job, house...<BR/><BR/>For being a cheesy sort of quick read, I found I could relate to the main character. And some of the passages describe non-pretty grief pretty well.SWHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06571144622886527378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-36641356477886683492007-02-26T14:00:00.000-05:002007-02-26T14:00:00.000-05:00Some days I know I should "move on" as well, but y...Some days I know I should "move on" as well, but you know what? I don't want to. For me it's easier to remain angry and remember then to possible feel peaceful and forget. And I don't just mean that about my miscarriages, but everything over the past two years.DDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17864339996118337420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-15511885918254791082007-02-26T13:57:00.000-05:002007-02-26T13:57:00.000-05:00Oh Catherine. I wish I could give you a hug and a...Oh Catherine. I wish I could give you a hug and a visit to the nearest gym with a punching bag. I get the anger. I felt/feel the anger more than the sadness, have from day one. I'm sorry.MBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10090873170016511220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-36579928422447657772007-02-26T12:38:00.000-05:002007-02-26T12:38:00.000-05:00I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I wish I ...I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I wish I could say something to make it easier. :( Let me just say this: you are in no way "sucking everyone else's energy." Your friends would never think of your grief in that way.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14911949137949343109noreply@blogger.com