tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post2427296755888159116..comments2023-09-23T07:24:36.217-04:00Comments on Everything Is Under Control: God's planUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-11663176445242542152007-03-14T05:24:00.000-04:002007-03-14T05:24:00.000-04:00Catherine,From your post it looks like you've quot...Catherine,<BR/><BR/>From your post it looks like you've quoted my own words, but as they were from my minister I showed him your post and he's asked me to post his reply. (I think he tried to comment but ran into technical difficulties!)<BR/><BR/><I>Hi<BR/><BR/>I'm a friend of Treggles, in fact it was me he quoted, so apologies for the "poor suffering woman", I only meant it to express something of my response to the awfulness of what you've been through.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, if I could respond to your question to God (steady): What DO you want me to do?<BR/><BR/>Everything I've read from you and others, and continue to hear from people in a wide variety of distressing situations, is suggestive of a God who is like a cosmic chess player. We are the pawns (or the queen, if we're lucky) he moves around. As a Christian minister I don't recognise this as the God I believe in. God is a God of invitation to participate in his infinite love and creativity. He invites us to be co-workers with him in this baffling world.<BR/><BR/>So, the question shouldn't be: "what do you want me to do?", but: "What should we do in this situation?" <BR/><BR/>I can't answer that question!<BR/><BR/>I hope this makes some kind of sense and is helpful as you struggle forward.<BR/></I>Treggleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17359608832198029625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-26138776261754313672007-03-13T22:19:00.000-04:002007-03-13T22:19:00.000-04:00I'm not really sure what to say. I have similar qu...I'm not really sure what to say. I have similar questions...For example, why can't I conceive?<BR/><BR/>I do believe that there is a day where all things will be explained to us in Heaven, these things that we will never find answers for on earth.GLouisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15146524259296901512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-49916098750666610392007-03-13T04:56:00.000-04:002007-03-13T04:56:00.000-04:00i don't have anything that wise to say either...i'...i don't have anything that wise to say either...i've been struggling a lot with this-almost 3yrs of infertility, we got pregnant but i had horrible complications involving heart failure, a blood clot and almost dying. We trust God and move in faith to get pregnant again, despite the risks involved b/c of my heart. And my baby DIES. WTF. And to add to that, my heart isn't doing well anymore. Awesome.<BR/><BR/>But, in making a decision for me, I have to take into consideration my physical and emotional health in terms of future children and how to "get" them-from my own womb or adoption, kwim? And I think God gives us the wisdom and doctors to help us make wise choices-it simply doesn't make sense to me, to have another pregnancy-with the emotional wreck I'd be because of stillbirth, and the physical danger of dicking around so much with my heart. So I think we will only pursue adoption at this point and it breaks my heart-but I trust God. I trust this is His path, and He led me to it, and He would never force me/us to go down it. We have free will. And in having free will, it can be so very scary to take that step out in faith, and trustfall. But, I guess that's just what I personally want my life to be a testament of. One big trustfall into God's arms, and I KNOW that it will be a testimony to others when they see how faithful God has been (even though honestly right now I'm still at the "I trust you God but WTH is going on here" stage)<BR/><BR/>I think you have to find peace with your choices, and consequences, and trust God to close or open doors accordingly. <BR/><BR/>The biggest thing for God IMO is that when He KNOWS you are trying to be in His will, He won't lead you astray. So if you say "ok i am stepping out in faith and going to try to get pregnant again IF it is your will God" and it is not His will, I would think that you just would not become pregnant, you know? I have spent a lot of time wishing I simply never EVER got pregnant with Catti-not only do I have the disappointment of no baby in my arms, but my heart function dropped again. It was worth going into heart failure for Mairi, but it was NOT *IMO* worth compromising my heart to have a dead baby. NO. But my friend told me every life has a purpose, and I have to believe Catti's life had a purpose, just b/c I don't know it right now, I believe it.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I'm rambling as usual but just...*hugs*<BR/><BR/>JENJENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07931773798744080086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-62542766144937057702007-03-12T15:29:00.000-04:002007-03-12T15:29:00.000-04:00Yup, I ask that question almost daily, I've given ...Yup, I ask that question almost daily, I've given up now, as like you, no answers to my questions from the all mighty, so I guess as DD says, it's up to me, have you thought about that?<BR/><BR/>X ArtblogAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-21423505957197384962007-03-12T14:24:00.000-04:002007-03-12T14:24:00.000-04:00For some reason what came to my mind when I read t...For some reason what came to my mind when I read this is the verse that say "sufficient to the day is the evil thereof." What that basically means is take one day at a time. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps God is all for you trying again but loves you enough to know how hard that decision would be for you right now. I mean, who needs to feel pressured, especially from The Big Guy?conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18204053369361649670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1823118039418365202007-03-12T13:13:00.000-04:002007-03-12T13:13:00.000-04:00I tend to agree with bronwyn, that God doesn't mic...I tend to agree with bronwyn, that God doesn't micro-manage. And that usually there is no clear sign what is 'right' or 'wrong'...but i have a hard time exactly figuring out what i want to say in response to your post...i will think about this more.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-19764056079571296962007-03-12T12:58:00.000-04:002007-03-12T12:58:00.000-04:00I have often wondered the same things. We have had...I have often wondered the same things. We have had 3 losses, all in 8 months. It took years to even get pregnant and then to lose them was bewildering. I believe that God wants us to have children. And that our bodies are imperfect, and not that God wants our babies to die. But I feel that I have been blessed with strength to deal and grow from my miscarriages. That is the part that I feel God has placed in these trials. He did not cause them, but he has helped me cope and not completely fall apart.<BR/><BR/>These are my feelings for my experiences. I pray that you will find answers soon that will comfort you and you can continue on. StaciaStaciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02170956090040035718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-52565736234398305052007-03-12T10:56:00.000-04:002007-03-12T10:56:00.000-04:00You will have to take this with a large grain of s...You will have to take this with a large grain of salt as I don't believe in God, at least in the traditional sense of a single supreme being who is responsible for everything that happens in the universe. I especially don't believe in a God that micro-manages human lives, or a God whom we can anger by exhibiting human foibles. If in your deepest heart you really feel that you want to expand your family one way or another, then don't you think God would be pleased if you tried to fulfill this deep desire? Put another way, even if God did have a "plan", there is no way we earthly beings could possibly know this plan in advance, we would only have an inkling as the various parts unfolded. So, we are left following our hearts and hoping that God's plan coincides, or at least that He gives us the strength to carry on if He has something else in mind. It's up to you to decide whether it would be better to stop know, enjoy the blessings of a small family, make the most out of being Sam's mom OR follow your heart and try to have more children, knowing the physical and emotional risks for you and your existing family. There is that adage about the biggest regrets in life being more about what we *haven't* done as opposed to what we have. <BR/><BR/>I can only imagine the quandary you're in right now. You know we're here for you as you try to hash things out -- there's an endless supply of rubbish advice to be had, lol!Ann Howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330639889849276318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-8481592714227256652007-03-12T10:50:00.000-04:002007-03-12T10:50:00.000-04:00I believe that it was not God's will for him to ha...I believe that it was not God's will for him to have 3 miscarriages. Why would I think it's now God's will for me to have one more live child?<BR/><BR/>I've talked about "signs" as well (and posted a picture of one I saw), but I still believe, in my heart, that *I* will ultimately make that decision.DDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17864339996118337420noreply@blogger.com