tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post113379973061226247..comments2023-09-23T07:24:36.217-04:00Comments on Everything Is Under Control: Obsessed with the dead? aka Obsessed MommiesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133887172086630672005-12-06T11:39:00.000-05:002005-12-06T11:39:00.000-05:00Can't read mommie blogs for the most part. There a...Can't read mommie blogs for the most part. There are a few ... sarcastic and honest mommies that are fun to read but you are correct they are few and far between. <BR/><BR/>I promise you that when and if we become parents... I will not turn into a pollyanna... *scouts honor*cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05499558026064730483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133845786988261002005-12-06T00:09:00.000-05:002005-12-06T00:09:00.000-05:00It's easy to criticize and make fun of people. It'...It's easy to criticize and make fun of people. It's a little harder to try to understand them. If someone chooses to write about happy things, it very well could be because they're shallow or it could be because they have enough pain and don't really feel like sharing it with the whold blog community. They could be living lives of pain from abusive relationships or devastating illnesses and just don't feel like sharing a glimpse of their soul and their desperation. Sometimes if you write a lie, you can almost believe it. Not everyone can be open and honest and they don't deserve ridicule. You don't like reading their blogs, then don't read them. It's a free Internet and you're entititled to your opinion and you're entitled to rant and rave about it but ease up kid, you're causing me to worry a bit. I love you.<BR/>MomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133845478194510842005-12-06T00:04:00.000-05:002005-12-06T00:04:00.000-05:00When I first started posting on US based message b...When I first started posting on US based message boards to do with infertility etc... I felt like an alien cos I was sure these women were all blonde, with nice neat bob cuts and alice bands and pastel twin sets - and that they ran no deeper than that.<BR/><BR/>My experience with motherhood is that it is damn messy and little kids are insane and mostly beyond understanding. And if it is all day every day then it's generally a fairly shitty job that no one thinks is worthwhile. And if what you do 24 hours a day isn't worthwhile, then how can you be? So women feel their lives and identity slipping away, their dearest wish to speak a complete sentence to an adult. About anything.<BR/><BR/>So while this whole crazy 'motherhood is so fulfilling and 100% enough' idea is nice, my guess is that it is an attempt by many women to convince THEMSELVES that their kids really ARE enough for them.<BR/><BR/>I wish they'd talk about that. But then someone from our corner of deadbabyland would blast them for that too...fact is, having dead kids sucks, and NOTHING will ever compare to it, no one will ever understand and everything anyone else says will be inane and stupid until they too expereince it.<BR/><BR/>And if Johnny really can pee inside the toilet, I'd PAY for that secret (and I don't have sons, just a husband...)Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16390479974754816006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133822004168551282005-12-05T17:33:00.000-05:002005-12-05T17:33:00.000-05:00i just reread this post. new post brewing. damn yo...i just reread this post. new post brewing. damn you are genius.<BR/><BR/>rachAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133818754436701622005-12-05T16:39:00.000-05:002005-12-05T16:39:00.000-05:00I too love reading your blog. You are a great wri...I too love reading your blog. You are a great writer. <BR/><BR/>You know what I think? Blogs are people's journals. They write about their life, what they know. I blog about my kids alot, I am sure you have noticed. Here is the thing, though. I don't have an exciting career or any other greatness to blog about. If I blog about my job, I would just talk about other people's kids. I would much rather blog about my own. Every once in a while, I have something else to talk about. But 90% of the time, it is the kids. Because they make up about that percentage (if not more) of what I think about and what I do each day. Do I realize it gets old to others? Heck yeah, but I just hope they like me enough to excuse me. ;) I am sorry you are feeling so down. I know it sucks and it is a horrible thing for you to look around you and see holiday things and disgustingly happy people everywhere. I just hope somehow very soon it gets better for you and your family. Lots of love to you, Kate.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14911949137949343109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133817779853382662005-12-05T16:22:00.000-05:002005-12-05T16:22:00.000-05:00People blog about their children? How boring! Almo...People blog about their children? How boring! Almost as boring, perhaps, as blogging about poetry and grading student papers. :) But at least my blog is free of bodily fluids. Hooray!<BR/><BR/>I love reading your thoughts, Kate. You have such a talent with language and truth.marybidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14100986477346925113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133814085683951022005-12-05T15:21:00.000-05:002005-12-05T15:21:00.000-05:00OH. MY. LORD. you have no idea how this post has b...OH. MY. LORD. you have no idea how this post has been rolling around in my head. I feel the same exact way. And I sure hope I am not one of those mommys you talk about. If I am, SHOOT ME THE HELL INTO OBLIVION!<BR/><BR/>ok, done with the caps.<BR/><BR/>rachAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133809337075802142005-12-05T14:02:00.000-05:002005-12-05T14:02:00.000-05:00Rockin' post, I couldn't agree more.Rockin' post, I couldn't agree more.grumpyABDadjuncthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00996252815514179671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133803843646911062005-12-05T12:30:00.000-05:002005-12-05T12:30:00.000-05:00Oh i never read those fluffy bunny mommy blogs. T...Oh i never read those fluffy bunny mommy blogs. They irritate the hell out of me....<BR/><BR/>On the flip side, just yesterday i had a long conversation with my 13-year old son about the mystical skill of hitting the toilet with his urine while standing up. So perhaps these ladies know something i do not know... something that will forever free me from cleaning up spilled pee...and all of a sudden all the problems in my life will magically be solved... Where was that blog about the pee again, Catherine??katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.com