tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post113356825482266256..comments2023-09-23T07:24:36.217-04:00Comments on Everything Is Under Control: JealousyUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133813634767835002005-12-05T15:13:00.000-05:002005-12-05T15:13:00.000-05:00It gets better, it gets worse. For me even though ...It gets better, it gets worse. For me even though it became less once Chloe was born, it has not gone away entirely. Xmas shopping at the mall is the worst of the worst. I remember the first year, being jealous of the mommies pushing strollers. Then the next year, i was pushing a stroller, but was jealous of the mommies pushing a tandem stroller. C'est la vie, i guess. Like DBM i try to avoid the situations that inflame it but you can't do so all the time. It has gotten easier over time for me, though.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133751210888147282005-12-04T21:53:00.000-05:002005-12-04T21:53:00.000-05:00I'm scared to look at my old blog entries. I was s...I'm scared to look at my old blog entries. I was so jealous and angry. I think I had a right to be, but those feelings were frightening. I think that jealousy is very normal. What are you supposed to feel? It would be nice to think that you are "above" that, but you're only human and you were robbed of something so precious.Roxannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08915721334800247580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133711456750439012005-12-04T10:50:00.000-05:002005-12-04T10:50:00.000-05:00i think this jealousy can strike regardless of how...i think this jealousy can strike regardless of how many children one has (or doesn't). i find lately that i scowl at women in stores with one child. they look tired and miserable and i want to self-righteously scream at them to appreciate what they have.laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12650967136734094216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133630835185108542005-12-03T12:27:00.000-05:002005-12-03T12:27:00.000-05:00I have a lot of problems dealing with the jealousy...I have a lot of problems dealing with the jealousy. I've never been a particularly jealous person prior to this, so it was a surprise and very difficult for me to know what to do with. It still lingers, too. I honestly don't really know what to do with it, except rant in my head and then let it rest and avoid situations that inflame it. The second strategy is pretty challenging, I must say.grumpyABDadjuncthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00996252815514179671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133616212592141442005-12-03T08:23:00.000-05:002005-12-03T08:23:00.000-05:00All I can say is that I understand. I don't know ...All I can say is that I understand. I don't know what the logic is...I suppose it has something to do with wishing to God that we had never experienced the pain and loss that we now have to live with every day. And to see other moms who have what we want without having had to suffer to get it is very painful. I guess that's why I get jealous of other pregnant women even though I am pregnant...they haven't experienced the painful side of it. I will never again have the kind of innocence they have that allows them to be carefree. Anyway, sorry to blather...I just wanted to tell you that I get it.Kathy McChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03173765251704625998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133583244601891682005-12-02T23:14:00.000-05:002005-12-02T23:14:00.000-05:00OK, being that I am one of those mums with two hea...OK, being that I am one of those mums with two healthy kids I'll be briefish but want to say I get it.<BR/><BR/>I have only been jealous of people with one more kid than me, who had and succeeded at the pregnancy I was striving for. Through the 'subfertility' and losses, anyone with equal or less didn't rate a second glance.<BR/><BR/>I would have to guess that placing a stillbirth into the mix complicates it much further, but your feelings make sense.Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16390479974754816006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133582021019913482005-12-02T22:53:00.000-05:002005-12-02T22:53:00.000-05:00I have absolutely no patience for "normal" moms ei...I have absolutely no patience for "normal" moms either. Even after having Evan. I just can't deal with their problems. I know to them, they are real problems, but I just can't stand hearing about it. They just have no clue, and I can't deal with it. And then I hate myself for being jealous and judgemental. It's a never ending cycle sometimes. (((((hugs))))Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05677254184072806142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133580094702794152005-12-02T22:21:00.000-05:002005-12-02T22:21:00.000-05:00Woo hoo!! It looks like it may have actually gone ...Woo hoo!! It looks like it may have actually gone through this time. :D <BR/><BR/>Thanks sis! : )Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00674118222114023262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133577518999811792005-12-02T21:38:00.000-05:002005-12-02T21:38:00.000-05:00I did email you. I apparently don't have the right...I did email you. I apparently don't have the right email address for you. lol My email is Kate94651@hotmail.comCatherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160908955133304449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8836584.post-1133576562215890982005-12-02T21:22:00.000-05:002005-12-02T21:22:00.000-05:00So, is that why you haven't emailed me yet? lol I'...So, is that why you haven't emailed me yet? lol I'm just kidding!! <BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry Kate. I imagine it must be so very hard. I really can't imagine the pain you must go through every day. :( <BR/><BR/>Big hugs and lots of love headed your way,Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00674118222114023262noreply@blogger.com